Can you wear a bikini to church?

Photo credit: Nevil Zaveri

Photo credit: Nevil Zaveri

“…Is the church a safe place to lay bare your soul?

We all want church to be a place of utter authenticity and honesty, but sometimes being honest in a church setting is like stripping off to your underwear, only to find the rest in the home group fully clothed and looking askance at your boldness. It’s hard to admit to others that your marriage is falling apart, or that you have an eating disorder, or that you can’t remember the last time you opened your Bible. It only works if everyone is to be honest.”

Today I’m excited to be guest-posting over at Premier Christianity blog talking about authenticity, vulnerability, and wearing a bikini to church. Won’t you come along with me?

 

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4 Responses to Can you wear a bikini to church?

  1. adrian ttremblay 18th August, 2015 at 6:36 am #

    I love this post. My husband and I have been through so much heavy stuff over the last 15 years and we have little time for small talk. We have been in a small group for 10 years and everyone shows up in their bikinis. When we go into a new situation we make a point of sharing our ugly trials. I feel our transparency is a gift to others, soon they too are getting real.
    Thanks Tanya
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    • Tanya 30th August, 2015 at 8:18 pm #

      “I feel our transparency is a gift to others” – I love this thought! I think you are so right – honesty begets honesty. Thank you for your encouragement.

  2. Mark Allman 13th August, 2015 at 4:42 pm #

    Tanya,

    I think there are few people who are willing to bare all and when they do we feel uncomfortable at times. I know there are few I’d be willing to share with. Part of it is that it requires effort to get a relationship to the point where we trust one another to share the dark and the ugly of our souls. I wish our churches were more sanctuaries where they fostered this type of interaction.
    It takes courage to expose ourselves for sometimes the rejection is obvious.

    To be fully known and still loved is a blessing.

    I pray that we would be good caretakers of people’s stories so that they feel that there are people that are sanctuaries for them; that will still care for them regardless.

    • Tanya 15th August, 2015 at 5:20 pm #

      Love these thoughts. I love the word ‘sanctuary’ – it would be amazing if the church were always a sanctuary for our inner emotions and our selves, as Jesus is a sanctuary for us. and this – “Part of it is that it requires effort to get a relationship to the point where we trust one another to share the dark and the ugly of our souls.” – this is the key, I think. Openness involves vulnerability, but it also involves the hard work of building relationship.

      Great thoughts, as ever! Thanks, Mark!

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