Endorsements are coming in for my book, and it is making me compare my past and present selves.
In the past, like Peter Pan and his shadow, I have stitched myself to my work. If someone praises my writing; they praise me. If someone is impacted by my message – why, then, I am important, and everyone should listen to me. The converse would therefore also be true: if someone rejected my book, they rejected me. If someone criticised my book, then I was unfit to be called human. And – of course – I would believe the negative things as true and the positive ones as pity-lies.
If someone criticised my book, then I was unfit to be called human. And – of course – I would believe the negative things as true and the positive ones as pity-lies.
Now, I am better at accepting the differences between me and my writing. (Not completely perfect, you understand, just better). I am not my work, and my work is not me. In our work-obsessed societies, this is increasingly difficult to distinguish.
There are a thousand reasons why someone may not like your work, and most of them are none of your business. I know this because I am a reader. There are times when I know a Christian book is objectively good, but it’s not my genre, or I’m not quite with them on the theology, or they’re talking from life experiences very different from mine. Right now, I have a few books I know I will love, but I just don’t have time to read it. (Who knew that book launches were so time-consuming??)
This is the only way to accept praise and criticism, especially of your work – with a light hand. Don’t swallow the opinions down: the good ones are too saccharine, the bad ones too bitter to digest. Hold them in your hand lightly.
Even as I prepare for a book release, I am unstitching myself from the work. Peter Pan needed his shadow to follow him, and he held it down and bound it to himself – but how much more fun to see your shadow dancing of its own accord, going where it wants?
I am chewing on the words of affirmation God spoke over Jesus when he was baptised. By extension, if we are baptised into Christ, those words now apply to us, too.
Therefore God says to you,
“You are my child, whom I love. With you I am well pleased.”
For a good endorsement, you’re looking for a combination of positive words from a really important person. The more positive the words and the more important the person, the better the endorsement.
So to all who feel discouraged, who look to others for reassurance, hungry for words of praise, know this:
You can’t get a better endorsement than that which you already have.
“And a voice came from heaven: ‘You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.’”
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Over to you:
- How do you deal with praise and criticism?
- In what ways do you stitch yourself to your own work?
- What does it mean to you to speak Mark 1:11 over your life?
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Powerful. I love what you said about unstitching ourselves from the work!
Thank you, Meg – i really appreciate that
EXCELLENT advice, to take praise and criticism with a light hand!
Something all writers should know.
#1 at FMF this week.
Hi Andrew! Thanks for stopping by again – you’re such a great FMF-er!
Amazing. I was just going to tell you how much I love your book, but I will let you bask in the endorsement you already have <3
Ha! I asked for that one, didn’t i?? Thanks, Cathy 🙂
Love these words of encouragement. “Our best endorsement comes from God.” Yes, he loves us and has created us for good work–His work. Happy to meet you through FMF! Blessings on your book launch!
Thank you for visiting me, Carol – and I’m glad this resonated with you!
Thanks for this encouragement, Tanya! It is so important to remember that rejection or criticism of our writing is not rejection or criticism of us, and to hold to our true worth in God. That we are God’s children, he loves us and is pleased with us is truly the best endorsement we can have!
Thanks for stopping by, lovely Lesley!
Hi! I found you. The waiting theme of your book sounds very timely to me. And if I don’t like your book I can still like you, right? Ha! Ha!
HAHA! This made me laugh a lot. Thanks, Gabriele!
Love this, Beautiful Friend! We are not our writing…we are His Beloved! Thanks for this very timely reminder!
thanks for stopping by, lovely Tammy!
Tanya thank you for this. I have written so many unfinished blogs because of self introspection and fear of other’s opinions. I am just learning to turn around. My issue is I am always on the bottom when I read anyone else’s work. Last place in my own mind, and then I beat myself up because I know God gave me what I have. Still learning to communicate His thoughts. We will always be learning, but will always be accepted by Him and that is what matters. I am #25 on tmr.
Lovely to hear from you, Mary! Your brain sounds like it’s very mean to you! I’m hoping that you can begin to think of yourself in first place – or no place at all, other than a good place. I’m hoping you just get to put those blogs out as a gift to the world and to God. Cheering you on today