A few good men: Integrity and Ruth 3

Today I am angry. I am angry at the politicians who are meant to look after the most vulnerable in society who are taking money away from them and giving it to the super-rich. This is nothing new, but everything in me screams, ‘This should not be.‘ When I rant this at him, my husband shrugs, “This is a Conservative government: they do whatever benefits the rich. That’s just what they do.” The government before them weren’t very much better either.

I feel powerless.

I write letters, like I’m supposed to, and just get spin back. It feels like I am just one person and I can’t change the course of history.

The only thing I can do is to be savvy within it; use whatever power I have. Play like they do: trickery, shortcuts, manipulation.

Again, I find myself as Naomi.

Ruth was bringing home food, but Naomi wanted a husband for her so Ruth would have security. Boaz, though generous enough, had not shown any signs of proposing.

Naomi was tired of waiting. She wanted a shortcut and she decided to make it happen.

She tells Ruth to dress seductively, to creep into a public place where she was not allowed, to lie next to Boaz when he was asleep after eating (and drinking) and propose to him. It was an audacious and risky plan and put Ruth in a very vulnerable position. What if she was found there by other men? What if Boaz rejected her as a harlot? What if he took advantage of her?

And we think we know exactly how the story will end. We know, because it is the story we hear every week – the man shows no interest in getting married until his girlfriend gets pregnant and he’s forced to reconsider his responsibilities. We know, because we have heard it before in the story of Tamar (Gen 38).

Tamar is left as a widow when her first husband, Er dies. As a widow in a patriarchal society she would have no standing or financial security, but there was a law designed to protect widows by obliging the nearest relative of the deceased husband to marry the widow and give them children. Then any children born of the new husband would be in the name of the deceased husband, to honour him.

Onan goes halfway to fulfilling his obligation. He marries Tamar but refuses to give her children; sleeping with her but spilling his semen on the ground so that she wouldn’t get pregnant. God is not impressed by his attempts to cheat and deprive Tamar, so Onan dies too. Judah, father of Onan and Er, grudgingly says that Tamar can marry his third son, Shelah, but only when he is older. But he reneges on his promise and Tamar, having waited so long for Shelah, decides to take matters into her own hands.

She tricks Judah himself into sleeping with her by disguising herself as a prostitute. She becomes pregnant. When Judah discovers she’s pregnant he initially wants her killed for her immorality but his hypocrisy is exposed when he realises it is he who has made her pregnant. Guiltily, he admits that he hadn’t done right by Tamar, and declares her to be more righteous than him.

The man who refuses to commit is tricked into doing what is right through the power of sex. It is all-too familiar, as much today as it was then.

One of the twins born to Tamar from her frustrated trickery of Judah is the great-great-great-great Grandfather of Boaz and our hearts sink as we envisage history repeating itself. We imagine the scene: Boaz using the alcohol as an excuse, Ruth with angry desperation saying it was too late and she was pregnant; the resentment on both sides.

But this doesn’t happen. Boaz doesn’t take advantage of her, nor does he dismiss her for being a harlot.

He responds with humble gratitude that she has chosen him. He explains that the reason he didn’t propose was that there was a closer relative who was ‘first in line’ to marry Ruth and he wanted to do the right thing.

And then before she gets seen by the other men, he sends her back to Naomi with full hands and a hopeful heart. He doesn’t manipulate Ruth or shortcut God’s law.

Boaz changes history. He goes against the grain of his wider family, who had a history of treating God’s law very lightly. He goes against the grain of his society, which was ignoring God, everyone just doing as they saw fit. He goes against the grain of his culture, which was to treat women as objects to be used and taken advantage of. He honours God and he honours Ruth.


I like to predict things. I research, I analyse. I study people and patterns of behaviour and I protect myself from disappointment by anticipating the worst in people. We accept the sinful patterns of our family or wider society because, well, that’s just always what happens; you have to be realistic. I see the trajectory of politics and society and I laugh a hollow laugh because I saw it coming but felt powerless to change it.

And then, every so often, people surprise me. God surprises me.

The righteous actions of just one person has the power to completely reverse the poison of several generations of sin. One person really can change the direction of history.

Sometimes the most unexpectedly powerful thing you can do is to be a person of integrity.

And sometimes the vulnerable can plead to just one person, ‘spread the corner of your garment over me’ and find that it is God himself who cloaks them with protection.

Over to you:

  • What things give you hope when you feel powerless to change the system?

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8 Responses to A few good men: Integrity and Ruth 3

  1. Joy Lenton 21st March, 2013 at 4:30 pm #

    Really enjoying these studies! You are mining such depths from these verses. Introducing the link with Tamar adds a whole new perspective. Boaz does indeed act contrary to societal expectations in not exploiting Ruth’s weakness and neediness. He is representative of our Lord Jesus who covers us with His mantle of grace rather than exposing our shame.
    I am greatly blessed to have a Boaz-type husband who covered my disgrace with his love when he took me on and still does. He is a man of great integrity and trustworthiness and I see Jesus’ love, grace and compassion in Him on a daily basis.
    Thank you, Tanya, for seeking to provoke us to keep on believing for such righteousness in our lives and the lives of others. Bless you, dear friend 🙂 xx

    • Tanya 24th March, 2013 at 4:40 pm #

      I’m SO thankful you have a Boaz – and really, this reminds me to be thankful that we all do, in Jesus. Thanks so much for your encouragement – these studies have been really precious to me.

  2. Mark Allman 21st March, 2013 at 3:05 pm #

    May I be one who when in a position to do so “spreads my garment over those that need it”. May we choose to be the antidote to the worlds poison.

    • Tanya 24th March, 2013 at 4:39 pm #

      Amen. I’m glad there are a few good men such as you in the world!

  3. Jillie 21st March, 2013 at 2:10 pm #

    Oh Tanya…This is SO good! I am getting a whole new fresh perspective on the account of Ruth’s life. When you wrote Ruth’s words in asking Boaz to “spread the corner of your garment over me”…well, I just want to cry, it’s SO beautiful. Makes me think of all the women out there who just want to be loved for themselves, treated with honour and respect in the eyes of their mate. To be protected, safe with him. To have a man of dignity and integrity…so hard to find today.
    I have a Boaz…yet so often feel unworthy of him. He is a gift, straight from the hands of God.
    I LOVED what you said about “The righteous actions of just one person has the power to completely reverse the poison of several generations of sin”. SO true. I’ve seen it in my own family. I have a son-in-law who is first generation Christian in his family. Comes from much hardship and sorrow, with a family who does not understand his new direction in life. He has the power to reverse the poison. I’m going to tell him about your post. Thank you so much for this.

    • Tanya 24th March, 2013 at 4:38 pm #

      Thanks SO much for your encouragement! And I’m really glad you have seen these truths in your life. Praise God!

  4. Alice 21st March, 2013 at 8:09 am #

    I’m having a little weep at this. Grateful that God can transform things and that life doesn’t always have to follow the path we sighingly predict. Let’s pray for more men and women like Boaz, let’s pray we can believe that God isn’t the God of the downward spiral.


    • Tanya 24th March, 2013 at 4:37 pm #

      Amen, amen – thanks for turning this into prayer for me. Xxx

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