
“So – I’ve been thinking about a theology of hair curlers recently – how are you?”
It had been a while since I last had a friend round, and I had a whole lot of pent-up extrovert energy. I babbled like my young son: a mixture of dying to tell someone what I’d been thinking and trying-to-remember-the-proper-manners. We hovered in the kitchen, in that ‘waiting for the kettle to boil’ no-man’s-land of social convention.
“Oh!” Cat replied. “Right…”
I took that as an invitation to continue, and spurted it all out.
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Something peculiar has been happening to me recently. People who have known me for a long time can testify that I am not really a ‘girly-girl.’
This is my confession: I have never spent longer than 10 minutes doing make-up. I don’t style my hair, I just wash it and let it dry in its own sweet time. It curls underneath and is straight at the top, which means that some days it works, and some days it really doesn’t. I choose my clothes according to how warm it is outside and whatever happens to be clean and in my drawer. I come upon fashions when everyone else has stopped wearing them. The concept of accessorising terrifies me.
But Abby Leigh surprised me by writing of fashion, and Christian bloggers Alia Joy and Joy Bennett wrote how putting care and thought into what they wore transformed their mental attitude and sense of worth. Before then, I wouldn’t have thought fashion and God would really go together.
Until, these last few months, (pre-relapse), inspired by the TV program Nashville, I have started to curl my hair – with proper curlers, and everything. I’ve been surprised at how much I enjoy it, and feel good about looking good – and so, naturally, I’ve been feeling guilty about the time and energy it takes to do it. Surely God wouldn’t want me to be spending my time with this? Doesn’t God disapprove of such fripperies?
And then I consider again: is this really how I should be spending my energy, when I have so little? Is it not hideously self-indulgent to invest time and money on primping?
Which leads me onto writing. (Stay with me on this).
I think of my blogging, my writing, as a luxurious self-indulgence. It was only recently, doing the one-day Story 101 course with Elora and Preston and reading Ed Cyzewski‘s short book that I considered for the first time that my writing could be a calling, a ministry, a way of worshipping God and serving Him. Despite the fact that I write about faith issues and spirituality, this was something of a revelation. (I think I unconsciously subscribe to the philosophy that if I like doing something it must be a sin or an idol in some way.)
But what if the things that we enjoy are part of our calling? After all, we have the psalms in the Bible – that’s poetry, music. God appointed craftsmen to make the tabernacle beautiful and colourful – He could have just set it up to be a 1960s-style utilitarian shack. Drama enables us to understand ourselves and the world better; art forces us to think and consider the eternal; cooking enables us to enjoy God’s gifts and give pleasure to others; Miriam danced when she prophesied; David played the harp to calm Saul’s depression.
What if God created us to play as well as work? Do you think it’s possible to have a theology of curling one’s hair?
“What do you think?” I asked her, and I found myself unexpectedly nervous.
“Um, you sound like you’re talking in blog,” she said, which was true. I hadn’t so much as paused for breath. She got a cup of coffee, settled down on the sofa, took a breath, and considered all that I said. “I guess it can be a problem if you’re spending all your time on your appearance and your identity is in that. It could become an idol.”
She was right, of course, that that was a danger, and a very real problem for many; but the idea of me being obsessed with how I looked is so far removed from my personality that I involuntarily snorted.
“Yeah – I don’t think that would be an issue for me. What if it’s not an idol? What do you think – is there a way you can justify it? Make-up and stuff? Fashion? Poetry and playing with words?”
She paused, and thought. “If it’s a way of bringing attention to God’s creation, adorning God’s creation, I think that gives glory to God.”
I breathed a sigh of relief. I had not known how much it mattered: realising that I wanted permission, somehow. I sat for a moment and hugged that thought to my chest: the possibility that as well as working and serving, God permits us to – no, enjoys seeing us – play, create.
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We live in a fallen world, but our theology does not start at the Fall, it starts at creation. God is not anti-pleasure. We were built to enjoy God’s good gifts. We were made in the image of God, and part of that image is that we too are creative beings; we take enjoyment in creating beauty. God blessed us to work in the garden, to play, to procreate.
In every sphere of life there is that fault-line of creation and fall: God’s good things that have been spoilt. There is paradox, both-ands. I want to tread that line with care, with humility.
We can pause awhile while we chop onions and throw red and green peppers into the pan, and reflect on the green and red of the fruit-filled trees in that first garden. We can remember the fact that God’s Spirit is always hovering over the deep, and He continues to speak life into places of darkness, of nothingness. It can be a corner of the day where we hold in our hands that thing we have done, and reflect on the possibility of God’s joy in designing us. It can be that time when we remember the sheer pleasure of making something out of nothing, beauty from dust, colour from grey.
Creativity can become a sacred space, if we invite God into it. This is what my hair curlers are teaching me.
Advance notice: Guest post series on creativity – all July! I want to think more about creativity, and I’ve invited poets, artists, musicians, and academics to help us do so. It’s gonna be good!!
Over to you:
- How do you express your creativity?
- In what ways can your ‘play time’ become a sacred space?
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oh friend i LOVE this. this is what i was going for in Mom in the Mirror–the idea that we can have permission, as women, to take time to care for ourselves, because in learning to love ourselves, we can better love others. beautiful, friend. just like you and those curls.
Thanks Emily! Yes! – in learning to love ourselves we can better love others – your book is going to be so powerful for so many. Thank you so much for stopping by, lovely Emily!
When I was back in the US for three years — on a study break from being a cross cultural worker — I fell in love with “What not to wear” and felt like I came into some sort of fashion sense in my 30’s :). A bit late, maybe, and a bit odd seeing as I’m in the line of work/calling I am. But still, those Friday night rituals … I sure enjoyed them 🙂
I feel like I still probably need a bit of ‘what not to wear’! Our bodies change shape and we have to start all over again, rediscovering ourselves and what best suits our body. And fashion sense.
I’m glad I’m not the only one!
ooh, good as always. I only have a moment but you got me thinking of how deeply God anchored us in the physical. And how deeply we crave beauty. So it does make sense that caring for the beauty of our own personal bodies surely isn’t sinful. (Of course it can turn that way. I can’t think of a single thing we can’t tarnish with sinfulness…) but this is good. I’m not girly either and I’m agonizing at the moment about spending the money on some good facial products – since I’m not getting any younger. But these are good thoughts. Thinking of myself as God’s creation, adorning it does sound good.
That’s it! I’m going to dub my new face cream “God’s Creation Preserver” and then whenever I apply it I’ll remember that I’m caring for God’s creation which he delights in. 🙂
I always love your insight – yes, to craving beauty. I reckon there’s something in there worth exploring…
And I LOVE this idea about the face cream! I’ve posted it on Facebook!
Thanks for this post Tanya. It really struck a chord with me. I too have felt that investing into my artistic self is indulgent. I have recently discovered a fabulous workbook called The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron which is helping me to reconnect with my art again. I’d really recommend it. I also have a friend, Naomi, whose life really epitomises creativity as worship. She manages to make gorgeous stuff, inspire others through her blog and look after 5 young boys! Check out her website at redeemcreations.co.uk. One practical idea I have been trialling at the moment in order to prioritise my art (which, at the moment, is visual art rather than writing) is by having a weekly ‘artist date’ where I spend time once a week nurturing the artist in me. This could mean knitting, going to an art gallery or taking photographs. I think it’s about being willing to let God create through me and believing that I am serving God through my creativity.
You are one of the people I look to who embodies a really healthy holistic spirituality – by which I mean you seek to honour God by taking care of yourself in creative and sensible ways, as well as taking care of others in extravagantly generous ways.
I love that you have an artist date – awesome idea!
And…I didn’t actually know you were an artist! How cool!
Must be nice to take a break from the writing after all the pressure of book deadlines. Thinking of you!
I love this, Tanya. Every time I read here I see so much beauty, in your writing and in you as a person. God has definitely put a ministry of words at your fingertips. And I am coming to see the blend too. I used to (and sometimes still do) put things in the category of holy and secular, frivolous and faithful. But I’m beginning to see how God creates beauty and we long to also. We find intrinsic value in making beautiful things, in breathing in the fragrance of onions and garlic sweating in the pan, of the feel of paint wet on our fingers, the cool earth on our fingers as we plant and bloom. We are not spiritual and then physical. We are both. P.S. Love your hair! It’s adorable. I’m growing mine out again so I can do more things with it. And that’s okay. 😉
Yes! Oh, yes! I think I still fall into categorising things into sacred and secular, and it’s dumb, because Jesus was such a physical person! (I know that sounds a bit clumsy, but you know what I mean – he went fishing, he slept, he ate, he walked – all of those ‘waste-of-time’ things, he did.)
I love your word skills, girl, even in this comment – I shall savour these words for a while:
We find intrinsic value in making beautiful things, in breathing in the fragrance of onions and garlic sweating in the pan, of the feel of paint wet on our fingers, the cool earth on our fingers as we plant and bloom. We are not spiritual and then physical. We are both.
Great post – no surprise there 🙂 But yeah I think it is all about being freed – realising it is okay to enjoy something and that when we are happily caught up in it it gives God pleasure too (ok ok, unless it takes our eyes off him, then it becomes an idol etc etc). For so long, though, we’ve been over cautious – it is lovely to read about you discovering this freedom in a new way. So keep enjoying yourself! xx
I like that idea of freedom – it really does feel more freeing. Thanks, Claire!
tanya, you have a profound gift. i have never been to your place before, i don’t know why. i’ve seen your name here and about, but never followed through to the clicking. and then elora posted this to Facebook, and you linked alongside me at emily’s and through them, i found myself here.
to me, it’s like you’ve streaked your words with colour and Life, speaking out something so simple, and yet so powerfully profound that it brings me to my knees. this is a powerful understanding.
bless you for being in this place.
Thank you so much, Rachel – for clicking through and stopping by, and for your lovely words of affirmation about my blog. I’m heading over to yours now!
This is so spot on 🙂 That is to say it follows where I have been dwelling of late. I love where you go with this and I cannot wait for the series. There is such beauty in the unfolding and revealing in this post. Oh I needed this too. And I love your hair!!!!!!
Yay! So glad you’re also thinking this way! (And thank you for loving my hair!!)